For the first few months of my writing on here, I didn’t even publish most of my posts. I just did it as a creative outlet and emotional release. Once I started sharing them with friends and family, I realized it was fun having a space where I could put thoughts and activities that were a little more in-depth than the average Facebook status could handle.
This last viral post kind of threw me for a loop, and the reactions of readers got me thinking.
The most obvious thing that struck me was this: I was careful, before sharing my opinions, to clarify that what I was about to say did not include the things that DO obviously add expense to our lives as parents. I specifically named medical bills, dental care, and school. (I did leave out teenager food intake. Some of the veteran moms pointed that one out to me. If our kids are anything like my brothers were as teens, I guess we’d better start saving now! haha) And yet, literally almost every argumentative comment was based on one of those three things. I suppose in a way that should be extremely reassuring to me, since my husband and I know our personal expenses and finances better than anyone out there in internet world. bwahaha
But on the other hand, I will admit I initially found it annoying and then just flat out disappointing. Were there really that many people who didn’t bother to read before deciding I was a naive, ignorant, YOUNG (oh, the horror!) mother?
I mean, I love reading blogs. I mostly just look at ones that pertain to my own life or interests, but every now and then, I’ll end up reading an article that I think is pretty much awful. To be honest, I tend not to comment negatively on articles. I am a firm believer, whether in child care or adult interactions, in commending the good instead of yelling about the bad. Ha. That said, I’m all for having a discussion between two people who disagree. I think those discussions can, in fact, be some of the most interesting and eye-opening.
The thing is, when the majority of negative comments are either based on a misunderstanding of what I was careful to clarify, or a tantrum-like query as to why I don’t write about being impoverished in a third-world country (!!)… well, neither is very constructive. I have 3 kids ages 4/under. I get plenty of tantrums here at home. 😛 On an adult blog? #aintnobodygottimefordat
The main thing that is definitely outside my norm is the kind of things people are comfortable saying from behind their personal screen. I mean – oh, my goodness! haha You guys – I’m from New York, I’m mostly Irish, and words are my best friend. I have no problem saying things that need to be said. And yet some of the comments coming in still managed to shock me a little with their utter lack of manners and human decency. I’m sure you veteran bloggers are very used to that. I know on some of the most light-hearted home decor blogs I follow, where the deepest topic is whether to use stripes or floral prints, some of the comments still get a little crazy! Maybe it’s the internet. Maybe it’s just that too many people are angry and hurting, and behind a screen is a safe place to let it all stream out. Either way – definitely a new experience over here. Remind me to put on my suit of armor next time I write a somewhat meaningful blog post! 😉
All of that aside, it was obvious that the majority of people understood my point. It was both encouraging and heartwarming to realize how many like-minded parents there are out there, and I absolutely loved reading all your personal stories and experiences that you chose to share! <3
This was a pretty random post, I know, but it just seemed too weird to get back into my regular posting when every time I got on here, this was on my mind.
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